I have now eaten a bit of crow - and fyi, it is a bitter bitten thing to swallow. I have realized I am now part of the masses and decided that while I am neither sad nor lonely…maybe those people aren't either…
Yes, those are pigs flying past your window….
Yes, your toes are cold since beneath them, hell has frozen over…
Yes, that is my profile you can access on Match.com.
I know!! I know!! There is a look of utter shock on your face…now you're starting to laugh a bit.
But whatever!!
I figure I work for technology everyday…it might as well start working for me!!
I have been in what you might call a dating slump for a while, and to be honest, I am kind of tired of it! But the problem is, where do you meet people when you're 31, in a new city, and are not much of a bar fly in a society that revolves around socializing at the pub. Granted, I am not a prude by any means - I do go out to the pub, a lot more than I would have ever though possible or fun…but I go with friends to hangout with friends and I really don't take much notice of the other people around. Besides - I have no desire to walk up to a random guy and start a random conversation about the weather, a beer, or any thing at all! I may be outgoing in many respects, but in some things I am old fashioned and picking up men and dating is one of them!
With that thought in mind...as well as the voices of a few friends in my head that keep telling me to do it. I started to look at it a bit differently. Online dating is really not that different than any other interviewing process. When you meet someone on the bus, at the bar, in the bookstore, etc - you have no idea where they were the day before…work maybe, with their wife maybe, at the parole hearing to review their case in light of new evidence….
But if you are online, have a little information, its like the screen processes. They have essentially submitted their resume for review. I now have a paper version of their life and the kind of position they are looking for…casual dater, serious relationship, marriage, etc.
Yes - the caveat is that, whether it be an internet dating profile or a resume, people will lie about anything to get noticed.
Nonetheless, I decided over the weekend to go ahead with this little experiment, and I must say - it is a lot harder to write about yourself than I would have ever thought!! Well, at least when you're writing stuff about what you're looking for in a date….I mean interviewee.
For your reading pleasure and since I am sure you are dying to know what's in it…here is the main
I'm very open, confident, honest, sincere, and have a great sense of humor. Easy going outlook rules as well and independence is savored :-) - just being truthful! I think everyone looks for someone who mirrors some of their strengths, and throws in their own to complement the twosome. Those who know me know I'm a good friend to have around. Honestly guys, I'm searching for a partner in crime with similar qualities and values. I do treasure good company with someone with a great sense of humor, as well as a person who is as comfortable with himself and is as assured of himself and his qualities as I am of mine. Honestly, I feel that the laws of attraction and strong chemistry are key, but I believe what is more important is that good humor and a strong sense of self and character, not to mention looking at the glass half full is wonderful... Cultivating a mutually supportive loving relationship with equal measures of give and take is really important to me. I guess you could say that I'm a true believer of actions speaking louder than words. So, if you think you've picked up on anything here I'd love to hear from you.
And thus far…I have heard from 5 guys - in 3 days!
1 was ruled out for the fact that he was from Washington state - what kind of crazy do you have to be to try and contact someone half way across the world and tell them you think that they would be a great match….next!!
1 was ruled out for what I will delicately describe as a difference in the demographics…like I checked white/caucasian in the background box…and he didn't…nothing wrong with that…just not right for me.
2 winked at me - basically, 'winking' online is the equivalent of winking in public - it says hi - I'm interested, but not interested enough to go to the effort of writing an email.
So I winked back to one….he was mildly interesting…not enough for me to start an email though.
1 emailed me and I am debating on how to respond if at all. He seems like a nice guy, but a few things on his profile are contradictory to what I would want. And, to be totally shallow and honest, something about his picture just makes me wonder…maybe it’s a bad picture or something…but he looks like someone who could go a little crazy in a post office…
And the biggest surprise of all - I emailed someone!! He seems like a decent guy, no major issues with his resume. Funny, sincere, a lot in common. We shall see….
I will keep you updated as always as my exploits unfold…..
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